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Understanding the Patterns Beneath the Surface and Moving Toward Connection
Our relationships can be deeply meaningful, but they can also be where we experience some of our greatest distress. We may find ourselves having the same arguments, withdrawing when we feel hurt, becoming anxious when we feel disconnected, or struggling to communicate what we really need.
Sometimes the difficulty isn't simply what is happening, but what is happening between us — and the emotions, needs, and patterns that shape how we respond to one another.
You may be:
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Feeling distant or disconnected from your partner or someone important to you
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Caught in recurring patterns of conflict, withdrawal, or misunderstanding
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Finding it difficult to express your needs or feel understood
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Experiencing anxiety, sadness, anger, or emotional overwhelm
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Going through a transition that is affecting your sense of self or your relationships
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Trying to understand how past experiences continue to influence your relationships today
Therapy can be a space to slow down, make sense of what is happening, and explore what you need.
Sometimes, the difficulties we experience—within ourselves or in our relationships—are connected to patterns that have developed over time and can be difficult to change on our own.
At Our Healing Connection Therapy, we work with individuals and couples to better understand emotional and relational patterns and the experiences that shape how we respond to ourselves and to one another.
Our approach is collaborative, relational, and emotionally focused. Rather than focusing only on symptoms or what needs to change, we explore what may be happening beneath the surface—the emotions, needs, experiences, and patterns that influence how we connect, protect ourselves, and seek security.
Together, we can work toward greater emotional awareness, stronger connections, and practical ways of coping and moving forward.
Our Services
We offer individual and couples therapy in English and Turkish for adults.
Online services are available in Ontario & Nova Scotia, & Alberta.
Turkce Bireysel Terapi
Türkçe bireysel terapi, duygularınızı ve yaşadığınız zorlukları ana dilinizde güvenli, yargılamayan ve destekleyici bir ortamda keşfetmenizi sağlar. Kaygı, depresyon, stres, yaşam geçişleri, ilişkiler, travma ve öz farkındalık gibi konularda birlikte çalışarak, güçlü yönlerinizi keşfetmenize ve yaşamınızda anlamlı değişimler yaratmanıza destek olabiliriz.
Individual Therapy
Compassionate, integrative therapy for adults navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, burnout, and life transitions. We draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), CBT, DBT, mindfulness, and trauma-informed care to meet you where you are.
Together, we explore your emotional patterns, strengthen coping skills, and support deeper self-understanding and resilience in your daily life.
Couples Therapy
Couples therapy offers a supportive space to step out of painful cycles of disconnection, conflict, or emotional distance. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, we work to help you better understand what’s happening beneath the surface of your arguments and withdrawal patterns.
Together, we help you move toward a more secure, responsive, and meaningful relationship.
Turkce Terapi
Toronto'da Türkçe bireysel ve çift terapisi, kaygı, stres ve duygusal zorlanmalar yaşayan bireyler ve ilişkilerinde güçlük yaşayan çiftler için güvenli bir alan sunar.
Kişinin kendi ana dilinde kendini ifade edebilmesi, duyguların daha net anlaşılmasına ve terapi sürecinin daha derin ve anlamlı ilerlemesine katkı sağlar.
Bu süreçte özellikle kaygı, duygusal düzenleme güçlükleri, travmatik yaşam deneyimleri, ilişki çatışmaları ve kimlik/göç sürecine bağlı zorluklar ele alınır. Kanada’ya uyum, aidiyet hissi ve yaşam geçişleri sırasında yaşanan duygusal yükler hem bireysel hem de ilişki düzeyinde terapi sürecinde çalışılabilir.
IFHP destekli Terapi
Geçici Federal Sağlık Programı (IFHP), Kanada’da uygun bireylere temel tıbbi ve ruh sağlığı hizmetleri (danışmanlık dahil) sunan geçici bir sağlık sigortası programıdır.
Bu programdan mülteci başvuru sahipleri, koruma altındaki kişiler, insan ticareti mağdurları ve uygunluk kriterlerini karşılayan bazı yeni gelen kişiler yararlanabilir.
IFHP kapsamındaysanız, Türkçe psikoterapi hizmetleri program kurallarına göre karşılanabilir.
Mülteci başvuru sahipleri ve koruma altındaki kişiler için ruh sağlığı desteğini güvenli, travma bilgili ve kültürel olarak duyarlı bir çerçevede sunuyoruz.
Meet Kumsal
Kumsal Kosar, BSc, PhD, MSW, RSW
Registered Social Worker & Psychotherapist
Founder, Our Healing Connection Therapy
Welcome! I’m Kumsal,
I am a Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist and the founder of Our Healing Connection Therapy. My passion is helping individuals and couples navigate transitions and emotional distress, heal from difficult experiences, and build greater security and resilience in their relationships and lives.
Mental health is rarely explained by one factor alone. Our emotional well-being is shaped by our relationships, experiences, physical health, biology, culture, work, family, and the environments in which we live.
My training brings together two complementary perspectives. I hold a PhD in Molecular Biology and a Master of Social Work, and my clinical experience includes community, inpatient, and outpatient mental-health settings.
My scientific background provided extensive training in research, critical thinking, and understanding biological systems, while my social-work training grounds my clinical practice in the broader social, relational, and personal context of each individual's life. Together, these perspectives inform an approach that is thoughtful, individualized, collaborative, and evidence-informed.
Because therapy is a deeply personal process, I strive to create a space where you feel supported, respected, and able to work at your own pace. Together, we can develop greater insight and emotional awareness while exploring practical ways to navigate challenges and move toward meaningful change.
My Credentials & Professional Background
Professional Registration:
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I am a Registered Social Worker in good standing with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers (OCSWSSW), Registration Number: 848023.
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I am also registered to provide online services in two other provinces:
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Nova Scotia College of Social Workers (NSCSW) (Telepractice Registration), Registration Number: 10776
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Alberta College of Social Workers (ACSW) (E-practice), Registration Number: 20538
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Education:
I hold a Bachelor of Science (BSc), a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) in Molecular Biology, and a Master of Social Work (MSW).
Years of Experience:
I bring over 10 years of combined experience across biological research, academia, and clinical social work. This interdisciplinary background allows me to integrate scientific knowledge and research with hands-on therapeutic and clinical expertise in my practice.
Specialized EFT Training:
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach that has been extensively researched and shown to be effective for both individuals and couples. Grounded in attachment theory, EFT helps people identify and transform underlying emotional patterns, leading to improved relationship satisfaction, emotional well-being, and more secure interpersonal connections. I have dedicated myself to intensive training in this model to ensure my clients receive the most effective care possible.
Some of my specialized training includes;
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) for Trauma: A 2-Day in-person Certification Training in Healing Attachment Wounds. Trainers: Dr. Leanne Campbell, PhD and Robin Williams Blake, RP (upcoming October 29-30, 2026), PESI Canada
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Mastering Skills and Overcoming Challenges in EFIT: A Consultation Process - Trainers: Dr. Senem Zeytinoglu Saydam and Dr. Ali Barbosa - ICEEFT
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Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy Essentials (Level 1+ Level 2) - Trainers: Dr. Kathryn De Bruin and Dr. Teri Murphy, ICEEFT
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Using Attachment History to Map the Cycle & Decode the Attachment Dilemma - Trainer: Dr. Ryan Rana - SNVEFT
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Attachment Injury Repair (AIRM) - Trainers: Drs. James Hawkins & Leanne Campbell - SNVEFT
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Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 and Level 2 (ongoing) - The Gottman Institute
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – Core Skills Extended - Trainer: Dr. Kathryn De Bruin - ICEEFT
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Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) Certificate Course - Trainers: Dr. James Hawkins, Dr. Kathryn De Bruin and Robin Blake - Psychotherapy Networker
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Emotionally-Focused Therapy for Couples (EFCT) 4-day Externship - Trainers: Robin Blake and Dr. Senem Zeytinoglu Saydam - TCEFT / ICEEFT
Ongoing Supervision & Consultation
I actively participate in advanced clinical consultation and supervision to continually refine my practice.
My Approach
I offer compassionate individual and couples therapy in both English and Turkish. Services are available virtually across Ontario, Alberta, and Nova Scotia, and in-person at my Toronto office.
Whether you are seeking to repair a repeating conflict in your relationship or heal from past trauma, I am here to support you every step of the way
About Our Healing Connection Therapy
Understanding the patterns beneath the surface and strengthening connections
Meaningful change often begins in the context of a relationship where we feel safe enough to slow down, become curious about our experiences, and explore what may be difficult to see on our own.
At Our Healing Connection Therapy, we work with individuals and couples who may be feeling disconnected—from themselves, from someone they care about, or from the direction they want their lives to take. Together, we explore the emotional and relational patterns that can leave us feeling stuck, overwhelmed, misunderstood, or distant.
Therapy is a space to feel heard and understood while developing a deeper awareness of your emotions, needs, and ways of relating. Rather than focusing only on what is happening on the surface, we make space to understand what may be underneath and how these patterns developed.
Together, we can work toward greater emotional clarity, a stronger sense of self, and more secure and meaningful connections with the people who matter to you.
Deliver client-centred care that respects your autonomy and focuses on empowerment and collaboration
Trained in evidence-based interventions including but not limited to CBT, DBT, EFT, MI, Trauma-informed care, IPT and mindfulness
Experienced at culturally sensitive and
strengths-based care that believes you are the expert in your experience
Prioritize trauma-informed and anti-oppressive care that allows you to have choice and control over your treatment
Licensed Professional based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Registered Social Worker (MSW) with clinical experience and advanced training
Online social work services are available in Nova Scotia and Alberta, Canada
How can you get started?
1. INITAL CONSULTATION
You can book a free consultation and tell us your needs and reasons for reaching out to support. We'll tell you how we can support you and figure out if we are a good fit for your needs.
2. INITIAL ASSESSMENT
We will meet for an initial assessment also called intake to understand your needs better and create a tentative roadmap forward.
3. WORKING TOGETHER
We will start working together at the intervals comfortable to you and we will find creative ways to support you feel better, build your resilience and enhance your well-being.
Individual Therapy
We take a trauma-informed, anti-oppressive, client-centred, and strengths-based approach. In simple terms, your safety, autonomy, and lived experience are at the centre of our work.
Therapy is collaborative and paced according to your needs. You won’t be rushed—we move at a speed that feels manageable and supportive for you as we work toward your goals for healing, growth, and wellbeing.
We draw from a range of evidence-based approaches, including the modalities listed below, and tailor our work based on what best supports you.
How can we support you?
An approach tailored to you
Our approach to therapy is collaborative, relational, and emotionally focused. We draw from a range of evidence-informed approaches, including Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Motivational Interviewing, and mindfulness-based approaches.
Rather than following one approach rigidly, we tailor our work to your needs, goals, and circumstances. We can explore the emotional and relational patterns underlying your experiences while also developing practical skills to help you manage difficult emotions, navigate challenges, and create meaningful change.
We offer psychotherapy in English and Turkish and work with adults and couples experiencing a range of concerns.
Couples Therapy
Evidence-Based Approaches to Strengthening Relationships
Research shows that relationships thrive when partners feel emotionally connected, can communicate effectively, and have tools to navigate conflict with care and understanding.
At Our Healing Connection Therapy, we use two well-established, evidence-based approaches—Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method—to help couples move out of painful cycles, rebuild trust, and strengthen their emotional bond. Together, these approaches help you understand what is happening beneath the surface of conflict, improve communication, and create more secure and supportive ways of relating to one another.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT focuses on strengthening emotional connection and attachment between partners. Many couples get caught in repeating cycles of disconnection—one partner may pursue while the other withdraws, or both may escalate or shut down. In EFT, we slow these moments down and help you recognize the cycle as the problem—not each other.
From there, we explore the deeper emotions and needs underneath the reactions, helping partners respond with more safety, openness, and understanding. This process supports greater trust, closeness, and emotional security.
The Gottman Method
The Gottman Method is a structured, research-based approach that helps couples improve communication and reduce conflict patterns that damage connection. We look at common patterns like criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal, and work to replace them with healthier ways of communicating—such as expressing needs clearly, taking responsibility, and practicing appreciation. This approach also focuses on strengthening friendship, emotional attunement, and shared meaning, creating a more stable foundation for long-term relationship health.
How can we help?
At Our Healing Connection Therapy, we help couples move out of painful, repetitive cycles of conflict and disconnection toward a more secure and emotionally responsive relationship.
Many couples feel stuck in patterns of miscommunication, emotional distance, or repeated arguments that feel hard to change. In sessions, we slow things down to understand what is happening beneath the surface and what each partner truly needs in those moments.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method, we support both emotional understanding and practical change. This includes strengthening communication, rebuilding trust, and creating greater emotional safety and connection.
Our work is collaborative and supportive, helping both partners feel heard, understood, and more able to respond to each other in ways that strengthen the relationship over time.
Contact Us
We offer a free 15-minute consultation to help you get a sense of what working together might feel like and to see if we’re a good fit. It’s also a chance for us to briefly explore what you’re looking for support with and how therapy may be helpful for you.
If you’re ready to take the next step, you’re welcome to reach out.
You can contact us using the form below or email hello@ourhealingconnection.ca to request an appointment.
Let’s
Connect
Phone:
289-312-8739
Email: hello@ourhealingconnection.ca
In-person Toronto, ON
Online across Ontario,
Nova Scotia and Alberta, CA
